Throw out your old sales playbooks. Ari has deconstructed and reconstructed the sales process.

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Ari Galper is regarded as the world’s number one authority on trust-based selling.

Ari Galper. Unlock The Game. Trust-Based Selling.
Ari Galper: Founder & CEO of Unlock the Game®

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Ari Galper – Trust-Based Selling

welcome to leadership talk

the official waymaker podcast where we explore how 
your organization can achieve more by doing less

well welcome to leadership talk the official 
waymaker podcast i’m your host craig Hindman.

and with me today as always is founder and ceo 
of waymaker stu leo first i’ll say hi to you

how are you stu i’m great good students today 
we actually have the honour of talking to ari

gelper now ari is the founder and ceo of unlock 
the game and the world’s number one authority on

trust-based selling ari welcome to 
our podcast thank you for having me

really appreciate it it’s so great to have 
you uh with us stu i’m going to handball to

you to kickstart this conversation ari um huge 
thanks from the waymaker team for joining us

i have been reading your content and 
listening to you for a little while

so i feel like i’m gonna ask some fanboy 
quests i’m gonna ask some useful questions

that might help our listeners and leaders 
sell better but ari before we kick off into

too much detail you are the number one authority 
on trust-based selling tell us how you got there

well it’s a 20-year journey i’ve been in this 
niche for a long long time and been only working

on this for 20 years and nothing else a classic 
overnight success right exactly yeah and really

focusing on one central problem which is how do 
you deconstruct and reconstruct the sales process

so it does not contain any more chasing 
follow-up dehumanization or rejection that

sounds like nirvana that’s exactly what a lot of 
my clients experience when they under when they

are able to sell without resistance without 
convincing without free consulting and giving away

the store and getting a lot of let me 
think about it sounds great call me next

week and that that was the problem that i was 
committed to solving and we’ve now solved it

uh to the point now where we’re launching a 
new book next year called the one call sale

where we build a compressed sales cycle from 
multiple steps now into one single conversation

with a qualified buyer so lots of exciting things 
have been happening in our laboratory over here

that’s very exciting um we’ll make sure we punch a 
link through to a pre-registration or or something

for listeners so that they can get a hold of 
that what was it that jolted you into this idea

of trust-based selling sure so there’s 
a story behind this it happened to me

early days and that’s what i used to be a sales 
manager a software company and i was managing

18 sales people at the time and we launched the 
first online website data collection tools for

websites now it’s called google analytics 
and i’m sure you’ve heard of that before

maybe but back then it was actually the first one 
out the door with that product it cost money and

we’re offering that product to the market and 
the big opportunities came across my desk the

big leads this one contact called us through our 
website i got the phone call he’s a huge company

big opportunity uh and he agreed to a conference 
call and a demo of our product that follow me

that following week and look it was such a big 
opportunity if i close this one sale it would

double the revenue of the company one transaction 
that’s how big it was it was a big global business

so uh the day finally came friday at four o’clock 
the afternoon i was in the conference room with

my director and i closed door behind me big long 
conference table in the middle of the table is an

old school speakerphone you know over the star 
trek three-legged square black speaker phones

and um i doubt the dalton dial the phone number 
my contact picks up the phone he says hey ari

how’s it going and he says to me ari let 
us tell you who’s the room with us today

and i was like oh dear allies be someone else 
there next thing i hear is my name’s nick i’m ceo

of the company i was like oh wow this is good my 
name is chris i’m head of global i.t this is even

better my name is julium head of marketing this is 
amazing i mean everybody in this room on this call

was a decision maker like if it’s going to happen 
it’s going to happen today they’re all there right

this is game on correct it’s if it’s going to 
happen it’s going to happen now so i i describe

what we do introduced myself then i gave a live 
demo over the web of our product being collected

on their websites ahead of time i showed all the 
live data and we’re logging in they’re seeing this

and i’m hearing this noise in the phone call like 
wow this is great this is amazing i can’t they

start asking me all kinds of questions how does 
it work how do we install it what’s technology

who are our clients how long been around i mean 
every question you can imagine of course i had

all the answers i was competent there was so 
much chemistry on this phone call it was like

a love fest on the phone you don’t talk about yeah 
i do i do i feel like i’ve made this call too many

times yeah they got the questions you got the 
answers you’re saying yourself oh this is perfect

and so i’m just doing my thing i always read 
all the books and sales i listened to cds in

my car back then with the seminars i i was a 
student and i was doing everything i was taught

to do build relationships building rapport 
uh answering objections and the hour goes by

they’re loving it and the call comes to a close 
and my contact says me ari this is great we

love it look give us a call a couple weeks 
follow up with us and we’ll move this thing

forward say to myself oh thank you god 
i was like wow what an amazing ending

so i said my goodbyes and i took my hand and 
i reached for the speakerphone in the middle

of the table as i’m racing for the off button 
on the phone by complete accident now it’s a

divine intervention my thumb hit the mute button 
instead of the off button they were right next to

each other and a small click happened and they 
thought i hung up the phone that’s a good trick

but that’s not your sales advice is it no no and 
that split second a voice inside of me said ari

go to the dark side be a fly in the wall go where 
no one’s ever gone before in the world of sales

so i pulled my thumb back for a couple seconds 
they started talking amongst themselves thinking i

had left the call now this is not a trick question 
but what would you imagine or expect them to

sit after a call like that well i mean i would 
imagine they’d be talking about you the person

you know do we like that 
guy do we like this product

how you know they’ll be talking about 
how they’re going to go forward and buy

and which would be really interesting that’s what 
i expected as well but let me share with you what

i heard verbatim word for word that’s why we’re 
all here today what they said was this they said

we’re not gonna go with him keep using him for 
more information and make sure we shop someplace

else cheaper i was in a state of shock shut down 
oh i hit the off button hell of the wall i said to

myself what did i do wrong i was professional 
i was competent i knew my product i was not

aggressive i did everything i was trained and 
taught to do by the sales gurus yeah and the first

big epiphany hit me you can tell me if you agree 
with this or not there’s somewhere along the way

it has become socially acceptable not to tell 
the truth the people who sell that’s so sad

it’s so frustrating it’s okay to say things like 
sounds good send me information we’re definitely

interested wait wait wait send me a what proposal 
yeah without any intention of buying so were you

in the room with anybody else no just myself 
and my director and he was also did a shock

and then i had a realization and i realized that 
moment that there is a visible river pressure

that flows underneath every sales competition 
you have with somebody pre-sale now you can’t

see it and they can’t see it but they can feel it 
if you are consciously aware of that pressure and

removing the pressure out of the conversation all 
the time but you’ll never get the point where you

can create what i call a bubble of vulnerability 
where they feel comfortable telling you the truth

and that’s where i created my whole unlock the 
game mindset shift concept 20 years ago where you

let go of the goal of the sale and you focus only 
on deep authentic trust building to get the truth

then you can see if you’re fit or not that 
became the whole premise behind our system

so ari one of the questions i’m sure our listeners 
have how do you get across your product messages

your brand messages but also the vulnerability 
to create this trust you don’t you don’t get your

product information across you don’t get your 
brand across yes you don’t it’s not about you

it’s not about what you have about nothing to do 
with what you have to do to build trust the way

you build trust with someone is you focus in on 
the problems that your solution solves for them

you start in their world you get them to own 
the problem you get them to accept the problem

and commit to the problem you don’t they 
don’t really care about how you solve it

all they care about is if you’re the one to solve 
it or not so the whole time they’re not asking

themselves oh i want to learn about their product 
no what they’re asking themselves is do i trust

him do i trust him this is an issue of trust not 
an issue of your product being better than someone

else’s and that’s what people don’t realize that 
we are now living in an age of commoditization

where every solution appears to look like the 
same from the outside world they can’t they’re

not they’re not qualified to discern your product 
being better to someone else so they see those all

the same so how you’re going to win this new 
economy you differentiate not by your product

you differentiate by your approach i’ll put 
a question for you so i’m going to butt in

wendy firstly when do you think that change 
happened in the market um like was there a

defining point where you see that happening and 
the second one is is this kind of like reactionary

to the straight line sales method is it well 
is i think it’s been a brewing revolt against

traditional selling for a long long 
time yeah people have been burnt

rejected taken advantage of for years and 
they know it hello when you’re in that game

when you call someone say hi my name is i’m with 
i’m with a it’s over to hello they know it right

away so the last three or four years though with 
the internet what’s happening is it’s commoditized

every product to look like basically a website and 
now no longer can the market discern what’s right

or wrong for them because it all appears to be the 
same insurance insurance financial advice whatever

your software software they aren’t experts they 
aren’t qualified to determine whether what’s right

for them or not based upon product knowledge 
which is so contrarian because we’re taught

that we’re supposed to educate our market and 
our clients on our product but let me tell you

right now the last thing your ideal client 
wants is education information yeah give

me more that’s the last thing people want is more 
information are you kidding me we’re in the age of

unlimited information what they want is someone 
they can trust to solve their problem it’s like

a doctor-patient relationship right you go 
to the doctor they say where does it hurt

and the focus is in the problem not what’s 
in the medicine bottle and prescription

so ari i love this idea of blowing up traditional 
sales processes on sales methodologies

how do you teach younger people who maybe 
have come through or even older people now

running a business that have come through that 
traditional model how do you teach them to build

trust so quickly well first they have to be open 
open-minded to willing to accept the truth that

their sales challenge is not their product or 
their market it’s themselves think about it their

clients have a problem they have the solution 
straight line of sight what’s the middle of that

us we fumble the ball with our sales process 
and that and so the way they shift is by first

cleaning out their mental hard drive and the 
conditioning what they believe selling is

redefining i’ll give you a couple myths right now 
to do that the first myth and you i know in this

one is that the sales is a numbers game i’m sure 
heard that before over your career all the time

of course it’s from the 1980s and that came 
from the idea that the more contacts you make

the more sales you’re supposed to make 
well we discovered in this economy now

it’s not about how many contacts 
you make anymore it’s about how deep

you go on each conversation not how good you are 
at how many phone calls you make the second myth

is the idea of the sale is lost at the end of the 
process and i should have been there before you

had a deal pending it looked really good all 
every box was ticked at the end it just kind

of like fell through like what happened like they 
were perfect for us and what we discovered in this

economy now the sale is not lost anymore at the 
end of the process is now lost at the beginning

at hello it’s like i said if someone calls 
you in the phone tomorrow morning you hear hi

my name is i’m with what goes through your 
mind about three seconds i do not want to

talk to this person it’s over hello and i’m not 
suggesting that your people listening here are

doing outbound calls maybe they are but if they’re 
not they’ll make the case say they’re losing their

opportunities not at the end of the process 
they’re losing it where at the start at hello

so if if i’m a business owner and i want 
to really reinvigorate my sales process

where would you suggest we start to invigorate the 
sales process you said correct to do an inventory

of the three to five core problems that you help 
your ideal client solve and be very clear on that

unpack it and have a brainstorming discussion 
with your team about this to make sure you know

all the intricacies of what the problems are that 
you solve for your market then you you’re you’re

you enter the sales conversation talking about 
the problems not the solution because you want

the your market and your clients to prospects to 
acknowledge the problem then peel the problem back

and amplify it to the point where you can roi 
the impact of not solving it and ask them this

question and here’s the profound question you 
want to ask is this a priority for you to solve

once and for all or is it something you have 
to live with unresolved and i’m okay either way

that is a powerful question can i um i made the 
observation just um as as i’ve consumed your

content ari is um it’s a very similar approach to 
like chris voss’s approach to hostage negotiation

like this um putting the onus back on the person 
that you’re talking to to actually help you solve

the problem rather than you coming in with the 
solution all the time is that a conscious thing

or is that just coincidental maybe it’s quite 
gentle but uh there’s the differences in how you

go by doing it from the fbi point of view from my 
point of view but but the overall concept is that

you want it to it’s like a therapist 
and a patient if the patient doesn’t

own the problem acknowledge it they’re the worst 
patients to ever have because you’ve got to drag

them through the process and chase them that’s why 
you want to make sure in the beginning the process

that you they acknowledge the depths of the 
problem they’re vulnerable enough to admit to you

that it’s real and it’s hard because when you meet 
someone new or have a first call with somebody or

scheduled linkedin meeting with someone for the 
first time they don’t want to be vulnerable with

you and share with you the truth their problem 
they just want to like give you a few breadcrumbs

for you to chew on and be excited about it and 
then hopefully build a relationship with them and

hopefully all go as well well good luck with that 
one because you get a lot of i’ll think about it

ari you’ve talked and written a lot 
about what you’ve learned from your son

and there are some human skills that we need 
to build around trusts and authenticity and

building relationships can you talk about that 
a little bit for our listeners and give us the

insights to bring that authenticity and 
pithy empathy sorry into our relationships

sure so when my son toby is born about 18 years 
ago after a day after was born we were told that

he had down syndrome and at first we weren’t sure 
what that meant to our lives then we realized

we had a gift on our hands if you know anybody 
who has down syndrome we know the special gifts

they have yeah you know they’re loving they’re 
transparent they have no hidden agenda they’re

just full of love and he impacted me so much 
wrote a book about him called lessons from toby

how this is centered in your personal business 
life and every patient lesson i left from over 365

days for the whole year a lot of my clients have 
next to their bedside and basically what i learned

from him is that he’s the role model we have to 
become like him where he doesn’t have any hidden

agenda he’s not he’s fully present with you you 
feel that see in sales we’re not our minds always

trying to qualify and go to a next step in the 
back of our brain oh he’s oh how many want to buy

oh great if i just came to the next step oh my 
god this is great see we’re already over here

and they’re over here and and the way you make the 
shift and learn from him is you got to be present

with the other person in your sales process 
100 in their world and i tell my clients you

have to fall out of love with your solution and 
fall in love with your clients problems because

you’ll be able to enter their world and stay in 
there as long as you can if they ask you for help

what was it that um practically you were 
able to take from that into a sales call

well it’s helped me and now i teach this to be 
to have the courage and the boldness to tell

prospects in the sales process the truth of their 
situation whether they want to hear it or not

because see we’re in sales we’re taught 
to play the game see we think our job is

to build a relationship with someone in the sales 
process first and i tell my clients stop building

relationships with people in your sales process 
you build them post sale not pre-sale they don’t

want to become your friend they know it’s fake 
anyways that’s like 1980s oh how’s it going nice

to meet you hey mate so what do you do that’s like 
oh my god they know right away what’s going on

it’s fake and they know it so that’s why we strip 
out the relationship building now we still have

bedside manner we still have warmth empathy like 
like a doctor but we focus on x-raying the problem

right away and that’s all they want they want a 
spotlight on their own problem they want someone

to peel the problem back to help them understand 
the impact of it they don’t want to become your

friend so quickly it’s awkward anyways only 
wants to become a client people relationship

with them which i know is very contrarian i 
know drops a bomb on the whole thinking around

sales and relationship building and everyone’s 
like oh the relationship first i’m like no i think

that’s why we like it because we’re as you’ve 
probably worked out we’re not born salespeople

we’ve grown up in business or in work and we’ve 
had to learn those skills and you look to other

leaders and you listen and you try and practice 
those things but in reality you’re sometimes

picking up really bad habits so how would you 
suggest business owners or leaders unlearn some

of those things well the first big idea here is to 
stop giving value whoa stop doing free consulting

stop giving information replace giving value 
with providing clarity providing clarity on their

problem that’s what they really want you know when 
you go to a doctor and you see your shoulder hurt

says let me take a look you go oh wow oh you need 
an x-ray we need a little x-ray on that you get

the x-ray explains you see that little spot right 
there that’s what’s going on and you go oh now i

understand what the problem is there’s a sense 
of relief when you find somebody who understands

your problem in a deep way it’s like it right it’s 
like vibration resonance like you you say yourself

he just gets me there’s more relief from 
knowing what the problem is than solving it

but what do we do in sales i can help you with 
that absolutely wait did you see what i got we got

demos we got insurance we got see we can’t wait to 
qualify somebody and immediately start doing what

yeah pitching educate i’m gonna give you lots of 
value lots of value today and i hope that all that

value really you enjoy that and then hopefully 
we’ll go from there how’s that sound oh my god no

stop talking that’s what happens i have my class 
record their phone calls or sales calls for

our they played those calls and i stopped 
the tape and i’m like what are you doing

stop talking stop trying to build a relationship 
stop trying to move it forward stop working so

hard you got to shift your thinking here to 
really x-ray the problem and know how to um

go down what i call go down the iceberg with 
somebody because they’ll start with the top of

the iceberg just give you enough artificial little 
things to get you interested then you got to peel

the onion back to the bottom of the aspirin 
make sure they want they want your help or not

you can’t go forward go down alright is that true 
of the marketing of a product as well as the sales

process or do you see those two as two same 
you have to if you want to market your solution

you market it around the problems not the future 
benefits see future selling is dead if you got

my software it’ll change your life it’ll be so 
much more efficient you’ll save so much from

see we’re so conditioned from the old sales 
gurus to sell the future sell sell the benefits

the problem is in this day and age 
now people can’t think past tomorrow

they can’t think past the next 10 minutes we’re 
we’re so fried with all that’s going on the

world right now and here we are trying to sell 
the benefits i’m like no don’t sell the future

focus on the problems they have now in roi 
the problems so the cost to solve it is less

than almost cost them not to solve it and ask if 
they want to solve it or not it’s pretty simple

and would you say that the changes through covert 
and the pandemic have only enhanced that or have

you seen a a shift due to covert out there in the 
marketplace well i think it’s 10x the sensitivity

in the market now to anybody who’s promoting 
themselves who’s selling with any kind of sales

techniques at all or online who’s using the same 
approach through different mediums like like look

at linkedin right now look at your inbox you get 
a lot of hey would you like a free consultation

i got a free report for you over here now wait a 
second i got a survey you should probably take too

they’re using the same old-school approach 
in a new medium no one’s changed anything yet

i’m feeling guilty as charged all over this code 
i’ll tell you one more thing i’m going to ask all

your viewers right now to take a verbal oath with 
me an oath to remove one key phrase forever from

your vocabulary and never ever use it again okay 
what is it this might hurt just a bit if you’ve

been a sales for a long time but here it is i’m 
going to ask you all to never again use the phrase

follow-up ever again for the 
rest of your life in business

okay what’s the only industry 
that uses the word follow-up

sales hi i’m giving you a call a follow-up to 
move things where towards the sale and i’m sure

if i have them all raise their hand right now i’m 
watching and i’d ask how many of you in the last

few weeks had called someone and said that i’m 
gonna follow up or email someone hi i’m ready

to follow up what are they thinking the other 
person’s going oh no they’re chasing me so what

you say instead is this you say i’m giving you 
a ring giving you a call to see if you have any

feedback on our previous conversation any feedback 
on our last meeting any feedback on our last email

see feedback going where away from the sale 
not towards the sale see you’ve got to reverse

direction on your process on your mindset away 
from your goal towards their goal and stay in

that path as long as you can because if you 
jump out there early you’ve lost them that

actually really surprised me right then ari 
when you said the one thing you need to say

is feedback because naturally that i go that 
does take me away from the sale or or even you

know looking for that closed moment where they can 
commit so how do you go from okay give me feedback

to let’s actually now take action and solve 
the problem well you get the the purpose of the

word feedback is to elicit the truth the truth of 
whether there’s a fit between you and them or not

and you know that by them opening up 
to you and telling you where they stand

if they open up to you and they express the issue 
it’s serious they want to solve it then they’re

going to say to you how can you help me but you 
are not allowed to jump in prematurely and offer

a path to solution until you hear the magic words 
which are how do you work or how can you help me

because yes that’s the hardest thing for us 
to do because we want to we don’t want to hold

back we love what we do we’re so passionate the 
moment we find someone it’s a fit we can’t wait

to what we can’t wait to tell them about it do 
you find that the australian market is different

uh culturally to the way that they respond 
to sales than any other part of the world i

think it’s the same i’ve been doing both sides of 
the of the of the pond for a long long time now

and people here are clients over there everyone 
hates being sold to and they hate having to sell

no difference we’ve got listeners uh i guess 
across asia pack um uk island north america um

and spattering across asia do you have any 
recommendations in a post-covered world

on the best way to maximize the next actions in 
sales what do you mean i mean where should people

go right now to to restart their business to get 
back the momentum and get things flowing again

they have to shift their own thinking first 
there’s no action to take until they’re first open

to being willing to accept 
the fact their conditioning

from their past experience of selling is the 
problem they are the problem don’t take any action

until you flip the switch on what you should be 
doing in terms of repurposing your approach at

the market away from your solution to focusing 
on the problem and having a language path and a

roadmap for that process that’s great advice 
i know we’re running short of time so i want

to give a huge thanks i know i’ve learned a 
lot i’m sure our listeners have learnt a lot

of being challenged um and i’m feeling somewhat 
conscious about going to the whiteboard now

and writing up a whole bunch of things 
i’m going to change about my sales process

um i want to thank you do you have any last 
recommendations or suggestions on where people

can get more content from you uh to help them 
well first i’m very accessible come to linkedin

introduce yourself connect with me let us know 
that you heard us here uh if you want to actually

take a step forward we have a free intro course 
unlockthegame.com you can grab a course free

course the intro course there and also i i host 
a show once a month called stump the guru yeah i

love that if you have not got onto that show 
uh get on to stop the guru and and try and

harry that’s through linkedin you can just jump 
in and um you can just ask me any question you

want and give me your toughest challenge i’ve 
heard many over the last 20 years that’s so well

i have i have one last question what for you has 
been when a sales call has gone horribly wrong

great question it happened to me it’s the it 
slipped through my my my radar system one recently

and i just can’t i keep kicking myself for 
this so i know what my my rules should be

uh someone came to our website full contact us 
form and so we’re looking to bring someone in

right away to train our whole global 
sales team we’re deciding on tuesday

and uh we’re making a decision quickly we 
wanted to talk to all as fast as possible

now pre what i know now you know that would 
my alarm would go off right away because

there i i i i i just debated with hit the call 
or not and i’ve got a process for high range

phone calls but i took the call right away which 
i shouldn’t have done and i got my call with them

and they put the whole ball in my 
court wanted me to pitch to them

as to why they should choose me over someone 
else which is so counter to everything that i do

and i slap myself and i just we disengage a 
nicely very short amount of time because i

started asking them questions but they didn’t 
want to answer it i knew right away this is going

to be bad quick so i recommend they go see someone 
else and i learn from my and i remind myself again

never engage with someone who is not 
open to talking about their problem first

that’s so good ari your website 
unlockedthegame.com yes is that

right correct jump on linkedin anywhere else 
people come back with me on linkedin say hello

we can we can connect there i’ll give you 
some resources if you like from that point

but i think it’s the best place to hold me 
on unlockthegame.com or linkedin yeah thank

you so much stu where can people find us of 
course uh visit waymaker.io and uh you can

download resources listen to this podcast uh 
subscribe to us on all your favorite channels

and tell your friends all about ari alright thanks 
for joining us i appreciate it thank you so much


Let me think about?!

This is a common response many people hear from prospects when making sales calls. It’s those passive dismissives that often get thrown back at you at the end of a call to politely tell you – “we’re not interested.”

One story in particular that Ari shares is the time he made a sales call to an executive team of a large company. In Ari’s words “there was so much chemistry in that call it was like a love-fest!” By the end of the call, Ari was convinced he had made the sale. He had followed every step in the classic sales cycle… building rapport, handling objections, the close etc.

At the end of the call, the prospect said “Ari this is great we love it! Look, give us a call in a couple of weeks. Follow up with us and we’ll move this thing forward.” Ari thought he’d hit a home run. But in a twist of fate, he didn’t hang up the call properly and unintentionally got to listen in on the prospect’s conversation in the board room moments later. In essence, they made the call not to work with him, but to use him for information and engage with a cheaper vendor.

This was the pivotal moment that drove Ari to look at a new way of selling. A way that brought trust and honesty back into the sales process.

The Bubble of Vulnerability

Ari began to shift his mindset away from focussing on the sale and rather building trust with qualified prospects. It set the foundation for the next 20 years of his professional career. Unlock The Game is the result of Ari’s transformative approach to selling based on trust, integrity and authenticity.

The number one goal is not to promote your product, brand or solution – but rather focus in on, and understand the problem your prospect is trying to solve. It is only then, when you have demonstrated your genuine concern for the problem your prospect is trying to solve, that you have the trust needed to offer a solution.

So What is Trust-based Selling?

According to Ari, there has been “a brewing revolt against traditional sales methods for a long long time. for a long long time. People have been burnt, rejected, taken advantage of for years, and they know at ‘Hello’ when you’re in that game [or not]. Trust-based selling is a response to traditional sales methods. Individuals and organizations genuinely want to partner with and purchase from people they trust. Many times, people already know what their problem is and what solutions or products they should be considering. In a world where every product looks the same, what buyers are looking for is someone they trust to deliver the solution for them.

Ari says it this way: “They don’t really care about how you solve [their problem] – they just care about whether you’re the one to solve it or not.”

Three Sales Myths

For sales people and business owners who have read all the sales books over the years, such a paradigm shift to you sales approach might be hard to process. If this is the case, Ari offers three myths about sales that might help re-program your thinking.

Myth #1 – Sales is a Numbers Game

This idea permeates the sales world. It’s been around since the 1980s and came from the idea that the more contacts you make, the more sales you make. What Ari and his team have discovered is that in the new economy, it’s not about how many contacts you make anymore. It’s about how deep you go on each conversation. The emphasis is no longer how good you are and how many phone calls you make.

Myth #2 – The Sale is Lost at the End of the Process.

Traditional sales methodology suggests a sale is lost at the end of the process. That you didn’t nail your close, or you mishandled an objection. What Ari has discovered is that in the new economy the sale is not lost at the end of the process but rather at the beginning. At “Hello.”

Myth #3 – Rejection is a Part of the Sales Game.

Traditionally, based on a numbers approach to sales, rejection HAD to be a part of the sales process. The old attitude was to suck it up and grow a thick skin. That’s just what happens in sales. What Ari discovered in his research is that rejection only happens when we lose trust with our prospect. There are certain things we do and say in the process that force the prospect to put up their guard.

Talk About Problems Not Solutions

Ari suggests that when you enter a sales call, you should do so armed with an inventory of the two or 3 problems that your organization solves. then you begin the conversation acknowledging the problems your prospect is experiencing. Peeling back the layers on these problems and showing empathy for the situation, means you can begin to talk about the ROI for solving the problem and the impact that NOT solving the problem might have on the business.

There is a point in the conversation at which Ari identifies a key question that needs to be asked: “Is this a priority for you?” He is so intentional with this question that when describing it to us, he said every word with a period! Is. This. A . Priority. For. You?

Ari describes the conversation to be similar to a therapist and their patient. A patient who doesnot acknowledge they have a problem (or doesn’t want to fix it!) is the worst patient to have. So ownership is an important part of this process.

The One Phrase You Should Never Use Again!

There is one phrase that is only used in the world of sales. “Follow-up.” “I’m calling to follow-up.” “I just wanted to follow up on our conversation last week.” “Hi, this is just a follow-up call.” Ari suggests this puts the prospect in a defensive frame of mind, where they may feel on the back foot or taken off guard. Rather than the words, “follow-up,” Ari invites salespeople to shift their language. “Hi, I’m calling to ask if you have any feedback on our last conversation? Any feedback on our last meeting? Any feedback on the last email?”

The purpose of asking for feedback is to elicit the truth. You are going to determine whether or not you are a good fit to do business together. They are going to raise their concerns if they have any, or they are going to talk about their thoughts around next steps.

Most of the thoughts and ideas Ari shares in this podcast seem antithetical to the way you have always learned to approach sales. For this reason, we encourage you to listen in to this conversation and hear Ari talk more about why Trust-Based Selling is so crucial in the new economy.

You can find out more about Ari Galper and Trsut-Based Selling from his website Unlockthegame.com

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